04 Sep Are You Sabotaging Your Success? Ready To Flip Fear & Failure?
We all battle with nasty, negative self-talk. We focus on our fears and failures. As entrepreneurs, they stifle our success, squash dreams or worse – push us into quitting.
Here are three things you can do today to move from frightened to focused:
1. Change how you look at your fears and failures!
FLIP your fears and failures. Look at them from another angle.
Instead of fear being something that stops you from doing the things to move you forward and achieving your goals – harness it as your fuel to excel. Start by understanding what fear is. Fear is a merely a chain reaction in the brain. It begins with a stressful stimulus and ends with the release of chemicals that cause a series of physical responses like a racing heartbeat, sweaty palms, light-headedness, analysis paralysis, etc. The stimulus could be a massive business proposal due date, decision (or deciding) to start a business, or a giant theater full of people waiting for you to speak! For some it is a spider, snake, birds or (fill in the blank with yours).
When your voice of fear is getting louder, use it as a sign you are getting closer to achieving a goal. Let it be the sign to celebrate that you are stepping out of your comfort zone, stretching yourself and GROWING! When you tackle the very thing that frightens you, the fear dissipates. Go after your fear, harness it and ride a positive wave with it.
Now, let’s talk failure.
Who decided that failure is a negative thing?
Let’s face it – most of us need to do something more than once to get it right. Helllooooooo! Not doing something perfectly on the first try is PART OF LIFE. I am betting it took you several tries before you learned to tie your shoes. What if you let this fundamental lesson elude you because you didn’t master “the bunny ears”, “magic fingers” or the “circle technique” the first time? Looking at failure negatively sets you up for a life of many more negative moments than positive.
Remember, by definition, learning requires not knowing something. Start seeing your failures as beacons leading to a learning opportunity, signals that a new mentor is waiting for you and experiences that get you closer to success!
Failure is fabulously inevitable. Let’s make it more FUN to fail… and always be focused on failing forward.
2. What would your best friend say?
3. What would you say to your 5-year-old self?
Close your eyes and imagine yourself when you were 5. What if that little cutie pie said, “I am too stupid, loud, lame, goofy, (fill in your word here) to make my dreams come true” – what would you say? My guess is that it wouldn’t be “You are so right. You are dumb and lame, and will never achieve your dreams. Give up now and just go back to bed.”
It would likely be more like “I believe in you. You have everything you need inside you to achieve your dreams. You will accomplish great things. “Can I hear an amen?
Now, repeat those words to yourself.
Over and over again.
I have everything I need inside of me to achieve my dreams.
I will accomplish great things.
I believe in ME.