13 Nov Friday the 13th – Reclaiming and Celebrating the Divine Feminine
Friday the 13th is a day that is traditionally feared. It involved spooky black cats and avoiding ladders… men in hockey masks killing dingbat campers. These things never scared me and the gore never entertained me.
Actually, I love black cats – especially those with green eyes. I fancy myself blessed when I see them! I have a statue of one under my desk that belonged to my Grandma… she keeps me company while I create. :)
Did you know that prior to patriarchal times, Friday the 13th was considered the day to honor Feminine Energy?
It was considered a day to celebrate the Divine Feminine, honor the goddess that lives in us all and respect the powerful cycles of creation, death, and rebirth!
Many are reclaiming the origins of this day and celebrating it as a very powerful day to manifest, honor creativity, and celebrate beauty, wisdom, and nourishment of the soul.
If you join Molly and me on Tuesdays for Spill the Tea, you know I love learning the origin stories and understanding the context of these celebrations.
For instance, did you know that Friday has long been associated with Venus? She’s a divine archetype for all things feminine and sensual and creative. The name Friday comes from Old English and literally means “day of Frigg”. Frigg is the Norse goddess of love, fertility, and motherhood. She is often seen as the same being as Freya, goddess of beauty, fertility, sex, and war. SO MANY RED THREADS HERE!
Then there is 13 – a divinely feminine number. Why? Well, in part because it is the number of moon cycles each year and our cycles as women flow with those 13 moon cycles. The moon itself represents feminine energy and is connected to, and can have a pull on the emotions and sensitivities of humanity. Put this all together – and voila!
As with many SACRED feminine ceremonies, rituals, and cycles – when society switched from matriarchal to patriarchal – these sacred things were no longer honored or respected. Even the divine cycle of women was made “impure and unclean” and something they were forced to hide. Our feminine nature and ways were now feared because they were unknown. The male leaders jumbled those letters and sacred became SCARED.
Personally, I am leaning in, reclaiming, and celebrating this day!
Here is a lovely Friday the 13th evening ritual I encourage you to create in your home…
1: Set the mood by finding a quiet, cozy place. Your bedroom would be ideal.
2: Brew yourself a cup or small pot of tea and use your favorite teacup.
3: Light a few candles. Use matches, if you have them, and pay attention to the sound of the strike.
4: Choose and apply essential oils to your wrists and neck or burn incense infused with herbs or plants traditionally associated with Venus, like rose, jasmine, or vanilla.
5: Grab your yoga mat or lay out a blanket, sit down, close your eyes, and focus on your breathing. Identify any self-limiting or negative thoughts (I wasn’t good enough for the promotion or if I was thinner I’d be happier) and bid them farewell.
6: Pull out your journal and write down positive affirmations and divine declarations, like, “I am love” and “I am abundance.”
7: Grab a pad of sticky notes or a dry erase pen and add the affirmations to your bathroom mirror. Surrounding yourself with these words will help you attract the energy and abundance you seek by focusing on being love.
8: The next step is practicing self-love and self-care. Pull your hair back and soak into your nightly skincare routine. Slow down and really appreciate how good that warm washcloth feels and how delicious the moisturizer feels as you massage your face with it.
9: Repeat those affirmations on your mirror as you do this… looking deep in your eyes – smiling at your reflection. Let the words flow into, over, and through you.
10: Now, grab your coconut oil (or fave lotion) and give your whole body some extra love… add in some lavender oil and end by concentrating on your feet.
11: Head back to your yoga mat, sit tall, and breathe in and out – repeating your affirmations.
12: Crawl under the covers, pull out your journal, and add in any additional thoughts or affirmations that came to mind during your meditation moments.
13: Snuggle in and sleep well tonight!
Enjoy implementing this lovely new ritual and reclaiming the Divine Feminine!