07 Apr Spill the Tea: Working From Home With A House Full Of People
This week’s topic is “Working From Home With Your Partner/Spouse”!
We share breathing techniques and cover these 5 points and more:
1: Be honest with each other.
Name and embrace the change. Ask for what you need… don’t expect your partner to read your mind. Darlings, this isn’t going to be easy and there is no way to get around it.
Being together now 24/7 can be very disruptive to one of both of you.
My best advice: Create separate workspaces. Make sure your partner knows exactly when it’s OK to enter that space and when it’s not. In my home, it is as easy as 1-2-3.
OPEN DOOR: Come on in, ask me anything, anytime.
CLOSED DOOR: Please don’t disturb me, but IF IT CAN’T WAIT, knock on my door, wait for my welcome in, and then ask/share efficiently and clearly.
FLASHING CUBE: Signals I am recording or on a call and can’t be disturbed. Knock on this door and I will be upset – unless it is an emergency and the house is on fire.
2: Set check-in times with each other.
This helps everyone with engagement expectations and created something for the super social spouse to look forward to each day!
- Morning coffee and schedule review?
- Take a mid-morning walk?
- Share lunch together?
- Enjoy an afternoon walk?
- Tea and talking about the day?
- Prosecco and planning tomorrow?
3: Protect the Introverts. Adopt the Extroverts.
Please do not depend on one person for everything you need.
If you haven’t already, start to schedule video chats with others.
Extroverts, please hear me/us – if you live with an introvert, please tread lightly here. Especially if they have been working from your home solo before the SIP.
- Take some time tonight to reach out and schedule zooms for coffee, lunch, happy hours, book club, brand practice, karaoke, etc with your friends.
- Schedule zooms with your family. Mine has done virtual tea parties, happy hours, and morning coffee together.
- If you have co-workers you were interacting with a lot at work – be sure to keep those relationships nurtured.
4: Give Yourselves Grace on Grace on Grace.
Any relationship, no matter how solid, can be strained if you’re spending all day every day together under one roof.
We are HUMAN. We need grace. Give it to yourself if you get sassy with your partner, to your partner if they get snarky with you, and shower each other if one of you has the BLG’s . (Bored, lonely, grumpy’s)
Recognize your triggers.
Define ways to have fun together while you are SAFE AT HOME TOGETHER.
You’re in this together and giving each other grace along the way is how all of us will get to the other side.
5: Treat your partner as you would a co-worker during work hours!
Pretend your boss or God is standing in the room with you. Seriously. This really helps you treat each other with a higher level of respect during this tenaciously trying times.
- Don’t leave dishes in the “break room” sink.
- Save dinner menu or TP chats for after work hours.
- Respect each other’s boundaries
- If there is a stain on their shirt – tell them before they go LIVE on a video chat. lol
How are you surviving and thriving in this season together?
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Spill the Tea w/ Molly + Me.This week's topic:Working From Home With Your Partner/Spouse
Posted by Debra Trappen on Tuesday, April 7, 2020
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What is Spill the Tea?
One of the many fun collaborations between Molly McKinley and Debra Trappen!
Molly is the CEO of Intentionaliteas and host of the Afternoon Tea podcast, so in honor of our shared love of tea – pull out your sassiest teacup, brew your favorite tea blend, snuggle into your coziest spot and listen in on this hour of togetherness.
Get ready to hear us sharing ideas to, best practices around, and (of course) highlighting our favorite people, brands, and initiatives positively serving humanity and sprinkling JOY over their slice of the galaxy!
It is our heart’s desire to provide a lens for focus, a place to uncover the opportunities that abound. and create a moment to embrace grace and gratitude as we celebrate the beauty that is swirling around us.
Let’s all go forth and lead with love, trust, and faith.
Learn more about MoxieOnFire.com – one of our other exciting collaborations!