28 Aug My Lessons This Year + A #FireMeUp11 Birthday Gift From Me To You
Wow! Another scrumptiously spectacular birthday week is almost at an end. First, I am so grateful for the love you showered over me this week with all of the thoughtful calls, cards, notes, Facebook posts, texts, voxes, dinners, coffees, wine bottles, and wacky videos! You truly know how to make a gal feel special and loved.
Not because of the parties and attention… (although, let’s be real – I am a LEO and adore the love!) I truly revel in this time of year because I give myself permission to slow down and reflect. I take quiet time to review the year’s experiences and soak them all in. This process reinforces and revisits the blessings and lessons I experienced over the past year and reminds me of the wild, adventure-filled journey I am on with all of you!
This year, I did something a bit different.
As you know, I am always looking for ways to take things to 11. To shake it up, I decided to take my “year in review” a different direction and actually go through my calendar – day by day. I looked at the multitude of things scheduled: visits to family, travel with friends, birthday celebrations and birthday weeks for framily, #FireMeUp11 client sessions, accountability dates for book writing, writing reminders, author interviews, speaking gigs, wine tasting, business planning meeting, theatre date nights, IVF appointments, shot reminders, friend shenanigans, WomenOnWine.TV adventures… There were also some “not so joyful” reminders in there: dates when loved ones went to Heaven, birthdays of people no longer in my life, and some missed opportunities like meetings that were never rescheduled, calls that never happened, prayers that weren’t answered “my way”, vacations that are still in “planning” mode, etc.
It also left me with an impressive list of people I need to reconnect with to reignite our conversations. I believe it is never too late to pick up the phone or shoot an email to say – Hi! Can you believe we started our chat 9 months ago? Where does the time go? I really do want to connect with you, does next week Tuesday at 11am work for you? Let’s grab a coffee… glass of wine… or jump on Skype for a chat!
Let’s never forget:
We are ALL human.
We have ALL missed appointments, played “let’s reschedule” pong with no wins, and unintentionally let things slip.
Life is crazy.
SHAME OFF OF US!
Let’s never let shame hold us back. Let’s shake it off and rekindle those opportunities!
I also learned a big life lesson.
I learned is it takes me a couple of years to heal from a lost friendship. My heart was broken a couple of years ago by a friend I was very close to. I have never had an experience like that (as an adult), so I felt incredibly lost going through the healing process.
I am finally at peace with the journey. The connection was in my life for a reason. I see it now. I embrace the painful lesson now. In the end, the relationships that grew out of that time have been life-changing.
For that, I am forever grateful.
“My Birthday 11”
Each one of these questions deserves time for reflection, success celebration, and intentional course correction where/when needed.
My heart’s desire is for this to inspire you to answer these questions on your next birthday… or do it now and then revisit these answers on your birthday.
- What was my most joyful experience this past year?
- What was the toughest lesson I learned?
- What was (is) the single biggest time-waster in my life, and how will I deal with it?
- What am I holding on to that I need to let go of… immediately?
- What impact do I want to make on my world this year?
- What is the one fear that is holding me back?
*How will I take it DOWN this year… and who will I ask to help me do it?*
- What habit would I most like to establish this year?
- Who are the people I most want to encourage this year?
- What’s the single most important thing I could do to improve the quality of my marriage this year?
- What is the number one thing I commit to doing for my business this year… that will STRETCH ME?
- What’s the most important decision I need to make this year?
Now that I am officially the “answer to the ultimate question of life, the universe, and everything” let the magic happen. (My fellow #SciFiGeeks totally get this one… lol) I have never been as confident, happy and tenaciously focused as I am right now. The next 11 months and 30 days will be the best of my life. I wish the same to you…
If you embrace this – join me in saying:
Watch out, World… Here I come!
Santé and Smooches!