11 Oct Happy 7 years, 11 days to my d11 Business!
Happy 7 years and 11 days to debratrappen.com! Wow. SEVEN YEARS!! I am proud of myself. I made it to a major milestone. Tonight, I shall sip champagne!
1: Believe you are worthy of your BIG DREAMS.
In January, I said I wanted to go to Spain this year. In June, I was standing on the Inmocionate stage giving my Fire Up Your Moxie keynote to a room full of real estate professionals from all over Spain and Portugal.
The fear of being judged for thinking too much of yourself is a real struggle for so many of us and holds us back from really believing we are worthy of our dreams.
The good news is that you can flip this fear, turn it into fuel, and leverage it. Now is the time to realize the people who don’t support you and your dreams don’t deserve your mind space.
This is YOUR bold, beautiful life. I encourage you to start doing the things you love and enjoy without worrying about what others might think of you. Don’t let others stand in the way of your dreams. When you are ready to turn your dream into a goal to turn into a reality – you will succeed!
2: Please stop wasting time worrying about someone “stealing” your idea.
An idea is only a tiny part of the outcome… it’s truly the spark at the beginning.
It’s a very rare thing that someone could hear YOUR idea over coffee and execute on it overnight. It takes time and lots of action to bring an idea to life.
I love this flow of activity around an idea:
Idea → Thoughts → Amendments → altered ideas →Thoughts → Amendments → re re re altered thoughts → re re re amended ideas →Execution → BOOM!!!
Sprinkle in key partners who fill in the areas you don’t have expertise and it gets even more complex.
Darlings, if you find yourself saying “hey, they stole my idea” far too often… maybe it’s time to confidently step up and into action on your brilliant idea so you reap the rewards next time.
As a passionate idea-stormer, I share ooooooodles of ideas and as I give the ideas to my connections I also release the need to be connected to the outcome or receive recognition.
Believe me when I tell you this – it is a much happier way to walk this planet.
3. Be mindful of the company you keep.
I have shared similar advice, in many other posts. This year, I want to encourage you to surround ourselves with people who complain less and focus on solutions more. I know the struggle is real, life throws you punches, and it isn’t always unicorns and rainbows… HOWEVER, I also know you can always find something to be grateful for – even if it is a lesson on what not to do again.
For me, I find I am more refreshed and energized when I spend time with people who love to solve the puzzle, not complain about how many pieces there are.
In the end, you’re the average of ALL the people who speak into you. If you are on social media – that number has FAR surpassed the traditional “5” people we used to focus on…
Please, please take a moment to look around and make sure you’re in the right place with the best people. Review your inner circle of friends and confidantes. (Need help? My Moxie Affirmation #12 has some steps to help you with this!)
You know me, I also have two questions for you to ask yourself about the people in your life. Before or after you meet with your inner circle, slow down and ask yourself:
1: Is this someone who represents who I would like to become?
2: Do I admire and respect them?
If your answer is NO, I believe it is time to release them from your life and open up that space for new connections who will fill your soultank with scrumptious soul food that will fuel your vision.
4: Pay attention to your self-talk.
Negative self-talk is not humility. It’s self-defeat. So if you have been hiding behind that excuse – it’s time to leave it in the past. It’s a toxic habit that crushes your divine right to live your best life or connect with those you are meant to serve.
Today is the day to ditch negative self-talk.
STOP being your own worst critic.
You’ve heard me talk about this before:
80% of your self-talk is repetitive.
Research shows that up to 90% of that self-talk is negative.
That means YOUR OWN WORDS are working against you rather than for you!
It’s time to take control and slay your self-talk into submission.
5: No is a completely divine sentence.
This year, I said NO more than I ever have so I could say YES to what mattered most to me.
I chose to focus on working with Sara on the WomanUP!® Movement and only said yes to certain speaking opportunities and consulting projects I knew were in total alignment with my values, vision, and purpose.
I have realized in order to empower others and breakthrough to another level of excellence, I have to let some things go. So do you. It is time to create margin for what matters.
When I am asked to participate in an event, serve on a committee, etc… I stop and ask myself if this will be my BEST YES. Does it honor my values? Does it engage my life’s purpose? Does it help me meet my goals? Does it bring me together with those I am designed to wholeheartedly serve?
If the answer is no, I stop and write a quick list of the people I believe would answer YES to one or more of those questions and introduce the opportunity to them.
The reality is, if I were to selfishly say yes so I didn’t feel awkward or to avoid feeling judged for saying no – I would be stealing someone elses’ best YES! Think about that… let it soak right in, my friend.
When we all do this, we are all living our best yes moments and so much happier for it.
6: We all need to be reminded to fill our soultanks. EVEN ME.
Most people can’t even remember the last time they thought about how full their soultank was! Working to take the time to recognize and feel where you are right now is such a fantastic exercise.
Start by simply asking yourself:
Am I content and joyful, right now?
Am I an exhausted cranky-pants even I would avoid?
(The latter is a sure sign of an empty tank. lol)
Remember, if your tank is empty, YOU are the only one who can fill it up. It is your responsibility to make sure you are living a happy, fulfilling, purpose-focused life. Instead of being overwhelmed that no one can help you, I encourage you to flip that feeling and say this to yourself, instead:
I AM IN CONTROL OF HOW FULL MY SOULTANK IS!
No one can take this away from me.
Believe that you are the most magnificent project you will ever work on and you are worth the investment of time, passion, energy, and focus… and cheer yourself on while filling your own soultank with joy-filled moments!
Your world will thank you. ;)
7: I AM ENOUGH.
Yes, I am enough and you are enough.
At this moment.
At this weight.
At this point in our careers.
Hear me ROAR this, my friend.
You are enough.
You have enough.
You do enough.
This world increasingly seeks to glorify senseless hustle, being forever young, and doing more more more.
I no longer embrace that success means going until I am on empty and that being exhausted or working all weekend is to be worn as a badge of honor.
I love my sleep.
I love my time with Jesus.
I love time to simply BE with myself.
Bonus thoughts for the year…
I am working on my next book! Yes, I am so incredibly excited. It will be a combination of sass, moxie and fire – of course.
This time around, I am collaborating with two amazing women to help me bring it to life. Molly and Beth are divine soul sisters. They know how to pull things out of me I didn’t even know about myself.
This week, Beth asked me to “share a little about myself” What are things I love… like my love of lions, flames, sparkles, xxoo, smooches, praise hands, etc… So, I started texting a list and so many random things flowed. I highly suggest you try this!
Here is my (ever-growing) list, to inspire you:
(In addition to lions, flames, xxoo’s, praise hands, sparkles, and smooches!)
I love imperfect shapes – not sharp lines.
Monet or Van Gogh over Picasso any day.
Deliciously scented candles.
Sunflowers. Daisies. Irish Bells.
I always have ooooooodles of hand lotion options available.
I can’t leave the house without my tin of TJ’s Mynts or my sunnies.
Even on cloudy days. I will drive back home if either is missing.
I love rainy days and thunderstorms.
New spiral bound journals make me giddy.
Coffee in the morning. Tea all day. Wine at night.
I love fun little zipper bags to organize my travel kits and handbags.
Fresh sheets. Yum.
Hikes with my hubby and pups.
I love The Princess Bride.
Wine tasting adventures with my hubby and besties.
I Heart 80’s flicks.
I’m a Sci-Fi movie geek.
I love glitter and makeup and fierce fashion but don’t consider myself girlie – I’m unashamedly my own brand of feminine.
I love being a redhead.
I love CHANGE.
I love frogs and owls… and love that they are the circle of life together.
I love boots and beret season. Autumn is my favorite of all.
I love being an Auntie.
I am a human juke box. When my family gets together – we sing almost everything to each other.
I love listening to Worship music.
I love my Faith walk and how it is truly my own.
I love Yacht Rock.
I love my purpose.
I love that my circle of friends is getting smaller and deeper as I grow older.
Get to know yourselves, my friends.
You are worthy of being fully known.